Responsible stands for response-able with the "I" in the middle!
That means that even if it is not your fault, you can always take responsibility for the situation you’re in and take action to change it.
You can change things by changing your habits, by leading as a better example, by changing your thoughts, even by doing nothing at all…
Even that is a choice.
First things first:
- See what the problem is.
- Take a step back.
- Is it something you can change?
- What kind of result do you wish for?
- What do you want differently?
- What is the alternative?
You may decide how you want it and what you want!
This is the fun fact: If you don’t like the present, how it is unfolding, you have the ability to either change it or accept it.
We have 3 kinds of problems.
I just love the number 3. Don’t ask me why, but I have a sweet spot for doing or seeing things in forms of 3.
What seems easier than taking 3 steps?
Everybody can count to 3. It always seems fast and simple to do. So, back to the sorts of problems we encounter in our daily lives.
- Direct problems: these we can change just by changing our habits.
- Indirect problems: these we can change by changing our methods of influence.
- No control problems: these are the ones we better accept with a smile. All you need to do here is, take that line under your nose and make it curl upwards. Don’t waist your energy on keeping stuck in emotions as staying mad or sad. It doesn’t help you for a second. You can be mad or whatever but just for a while. And then you let it surface, up into your head, passing by your heart. You will feel it getting neutralized. After that put on your smile and go on with your day, laying your focus on something positive, something you can do or change.
If you feel you can’t get past the negative emotions, then go into nature. Let mother earth set you free.
Let it all out. Scream, cry, curl up in the grass, do what you need to do.
Go home, take a shower to clean up your energy. You will feel a whole lot better.
The thing is that we often let a lot slide by. We need to take our power back.
Instead of saying “There is nothing I can do”, say: “Let’s look at the alternatives”
Instead of saying “That is just who I am”, say: “I can choose a different approach”
Instead of saying "I must", say "I prefer"
Instead of saying “I have to”, say: “I choose to”
Never say you have to do something. Always realize you have a choice, a free will.
Because when you say: “I have to do it”, that means that circumstances or other people are forcing you to do what you do.
Are you not free to choose your own actions?
Instead of saying “If only …”, realize you have a choice and you can say: “I WILL!”
Instead of saying: “He makes me so mad” realize that you are in control of your own feelings.
Refocus on something that gives you the feeling of joy.
Instead of playing the victim, realize that the person who acts out, does it from its own hurt, insecurity.
Show compassion. Have empathy.
Don’t go looking for problems now but be aware that you have the power to deal with them or to accept them.
When you make a mistake, immediately admit it, correct it, and learn from it.
Be part of the solution, not the problem.
Lord, give me the courage to change the things which can and ought to be changed,
the serenity to accept the things which can not be changed
and the wisdom to know the difference.
Amen
Lots of love
Just me :)